While listening to a segment on CBS Sunday Morning  “Faith Salie: On Mother’s Day without a mother” – something she said resonated with me. I understood deeply what Salie meant when she said “My mother is still revealing herself to me every day…” 

We all get advice from caring friends and family members when we loose a loved one, a mother in particular, but it takes time to understand the words since they are said when we are emotionally overwhelmed and probably a bit numb.  The advice Salie shared was from a friend who said that her relationship with her mother  “would continue to grow”. 

If this happens for us, I’m sure it takes different forms.  How it unfolded for me was remembering the things my mother told me.  Her words like her love stayed with me and appeared, or so it seemed, in their own time and rhythm.  

Here are some of those things:

1- Make sure you make really good friends – if you do, they will stay by you for a lifetime.

2- Don’t ever give anyone anything you wouldn’t want for yourself. 

3- Don’t be a jealous person – someone will always have more than you, or something bigger and better than you do and you will always be miserable.

4- You can do anything you set your mind to! Anything you are serious about and willing to dedicate yourself to.

5- Dress up when you feel down – wear bright colors. It will make you feel better and make those around you feel good as well.

6- Mind your manners – always say good morning, goodbye, please, and thank you. People appreciate it.

7- Count your blessings – be grateful for what you have…

8- If you can help someone, don’t hesitate,  do it. 

I have entered the fourth year without my mother yet I am more and more aware of the permanent place she has and will always have in my life.

“As mothers and daughters, we are connected with one another. My mother is the bones of my spine, keeping me straight and true. She is my blood, making sure it runs rich and strong. She is the beating of my heart…”

Kristin Hannah, Summer Island