We are all a little weird and lifes a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with the and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love
What is love? Is it a mutual agreement to see eye to eye? Is it a cross between passion and emotion? Does it just happen by chance or is it a conscious decision? Ill be honest with you, I dont really know for sure. However I can tell you what it means to me.
I believe love is in the eye of the beholder, and when two people love one another, they are just agreeing that love means the same thing to them. In life, there will always be conflict and misunderstanding, we will often be faced by dilemmas and confusion, and there will be many obstacles along the way. It is important to recognize that despite all the difficult moments, love can conquer all. If you are arguing with your significant other, it is not a sure sign that he or she loves you any less.
It is just a matter of communication and perception and usually, it is only with time that you can be sure that the other person is on the same wavelength as you.
Also, there is no one definition of love. Its just a feeling that comes over you that you cannot necessarily explain or describe but you know its something good. And its a feeling that is hard to deny.
In doubt about whether you love a person? Can you see your life continuing like normal without the presence of that person? If this person totally vanished from your life, can you easily recover and move on? I know that if I even try to imagine a life without my fiance, not only is it just very difficult to even imagine how it would be, all I know is that this feeling of emptyness would overcome me and I would probably want to just sit in a dark room for all of eternity. Aside from the fact that I know I love him, I think that this explanation makes it pretty clear that I cant be without him without feeling horrible and that the fact that he is present and breathing means I can continue living a normal life. I dont think this test is a surefire way of knowing whether you love a person, but its a good start. I mean if you think you can easily continue on with life without that persons presence, then Im not so sure you love this individual. Perhaps its just a crush, or temporary lust? Or, maybe its still too early to know
Im going to end this with one of my favorite, biblical passages (1 Corinthians 13); Gods definition of love:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
About the Author:
Alex is a dating consultant and a blog contributor for free dating site called Loveawake. He writes his best ideas, advices and tips about relationships, online dating and marriage for blogs and sites. His work has been featured in Medium.com, Onmogul.com, and many more publications.