First let me say -it’s perfectly normal.
You have your whole life ahead of you and have so many options, which means decisions to make – which can of course be daunting. Then, there is the pressure of making the decision that will secure your future, which is stress producing at any age.
Albert Camus tells us that: “There is scarcely any passion without struggle” and this is true. I believe that navigating our lives requires training but there are no courses for that. You have to learn this on your own, from other successful folks or role models. And of course what worked for someone else may not be suitable for you so you have to make your own path.
Unfortunately, you can’t “calculate” your next move all the time – it has to be rooted in something deeper. That is to say – you will be happier if decisions come from research, passion, feeling or even gut instinct. When thinking about anything towards making a decision, tell yourself the truth. Try not to “see” what you hope or wish – but what is actually there in the feelings, facts and details. You will make a better decision if you do.
There is lots of good advice out there – take some of it in – especially this one from Forbes that boils down to a simple thank you for someone’s time.
You might also want to look at the words that may be promoting anxiety and make some small changes –
– Try replacing anxious with thoughtful.
– Use seeking wisdom instead of worry.
– Don’t think that failure is a “dirty” word.
And if you do fail – don’t give up – Thomas A. Edison tells us that
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
I am a firm believer in “The Power of Positive Thinking” as dispensed by Norman Vincent Peale who suggests that you can: Change your thoughts and you change your world.
When I was in my 20s my parents told me it was the best time to test myself, my ideas, and try new things because they were there to support me no-matter-what. I hope you have the same encouragement and safety-net, but if you don’t – construct your own.